Figuring out what we are good at is a major esteem need of those who want to become successful at …something. It sometimes comes naturally to us either by luck or great guidance but sometimes it just takes forever to figure it out. In fact not only it can take forever but it’s not even guaranteed that one will finally find his Ithaca however at least some of us get into that discovery sailboat sooner or later in our lives. Regardless the possibilities we are up for a promising adventure!
There are many thesaurus maps out there from people who actually made it to the their dreamland but the reality is that destinations vary by case. Moreover a map alone would never help you become a sailor so is better to learn some techniques instead. After all, as an old sailing quote has it “You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails”
So here’s a technique to help you figure out (and hopefully help you focus on) what you are or can become good at. Here’s how it works: Assuming that most of the times, for one to be consider successful someone else has to acknowledge this (not always the case but…) think of it as quadrant where you have YOU vs OTHERS on the one axis and KNOW vs THINK on the other.
There are certain things you know you are good at. These doesn’t have to be any special skills or talents. Just the experiences and knowledge you have acquired through your life. These may be things you don’t really want to focus on or you don’t think you should as you believe they won’t get you anywhere. Fair enough but before deciding yourself that none cares about those make sure you have properly calculated the chances of succeeding through those. Simply put, you would never become a famous singer unless you had started singing in front of an audience. You would never become an entrepreneur unless you had launched into a market. Bottom line you could actually already have something you are evidently good at that can indeed make you successful because there are some people out there caring about it. Don’t ignore these options – they may be your easiest way to the gold.
Then there are some other things you think you are good at. Most of the times these are going to be stuff that you know they make a person successful – thus you want to think you are good at anyway. Also in contrary to the previous case, these are things you may have to work hard (or harder) to achieve them and although there is nothing wrong about trying hard there’s also an element of time or a number of other resources you need to take into account before focusing on them. Nevertheless in this case there are 2 actions you need to definitely consider:
1) Before anything else you need to get some feedback from others on those things you think you are good at. In contrary to the case of deciding what you want to do in life where you can just ask yourself in order to be granted as a successful persona in your area the opinion of your circle is important. This is not to praise or demotivate yourself about anything but simply in order to understand whether you are indeed as good as you think (so that you know!) or what else you may need to do to finally become good at it.
2) Then you need not just to let people know (as in case 1) but also do a great job to convince them (which is another thing you may or may not be good at at the end!) as in this case your capability will be less obvious to them or they might have to take a greater risk in giving you that chance.
Final note – you are good at what other people know or think you are good at!